Tagged: confidence

Loosen Up, Embrace Aggression

Are You Going to Cry Now? I used to spend a lot of effort pushing back aggression as a kid, I think. Expressing aggression or anger made me feel vulnerable and exposed, like not only would I ruin everything, but...

The Kind of Girl Who Throws a Punch

Up until a year ago, my Hapkido training didn’t really include any stricking or blocking. We did punch defenses and deflections (still my fav techniques) but we didn’t spend class time learning to throw a proper punch – hook, jab,...

[Question] How can I be more confident?

Mmmm! You’re not alone! Confidence really does help. It eliminates hesitation in movements, it allows us to examine what we do well and what we need to do better without beating ourselves up. It lets us focus on one thing...

Never Give Up

I have four different senseis and today I’ll spend some time speaking of a spesific one. He is one of my favourite senseis and I thorougly love, admire and respect him. In that order. That’s actually unfortunate for him cause...

[Advice] Finding My Kiai

I wonder what it is about yelling a kiai doesn’t feel right to you. I know you’re not alone in having an aversion or strange feeling about yelling in martial arts class.  In order to become more comfortable exploring this...

You Are Needed

You are needed. Sometimes we can feel so different, that we feel we don’t belong.  We can feel that we’re not needed, that we’re a burden, that others must tolerate us without any benefit in return.  Sometimes we can get this...

Fear

I think it it’s safe to say that you will experience fear several times in your life and maybe especially in martial arts.  Sometimes you’re afraid of being physically hurt, other times it’s less tangible things that seem to hold...

The Pressure to Be Better

Martial arts are hard. Along with being physically demanding (especially for someone like me, who might not be at their “peak” fitness) they can also be mentally demanding: true tests of body and mind. The pressure of it all can...

How Martial Arts Taught Me To Listen

Here’s the thing about Hapkido (and Judo, and Aikido, and Jiu Jitsu):  our training simply cannot be complete without our partner, and to enjoy mutual benefit with any other person we must be able to take and give trust, and...